tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2736006234147338748.post655590293058447812..comments2013-11-04T16:46:01.337-08:00Comments on Michael's Story: Sitting vigil with MichaelUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2736006234147338748.post-16076110274263150372010-07-10T22:30:13.162-07:002010-07-10T22:30:13.162-07:00Dan, I just found your blog and am reading yours a...Dan, I just found your blog and am reading yours and Michael's story. Finding this blog and reading it was like a fresh breath of air after being underwater for too long.<br /><br />I've been widower for 17 months, and like you, I found precious little for the widowers of gay men, as you said, other than the one book. I read how you miss being part of a couple. I so understand that. I live in a small town South of Dallas, Texas, and there is a gay couple that just moved here recently. Every time I see them walking with their dog, I first think it is so sweet, and alternatively I wonder if they know how tentative their life together is. Those kinds of thoughts are fleeting. I am happy for couples in whom I can see the love that George and I shared together for 25 years.<br /><br />It is sad that you only had 3.5 years together, but judging from what I have read on your blog, I can see you probably lived a lifetime in those years. <br /><br />I lived and worked with my partner all those years, and it has been hard to resume my life alone. I'm in therapy and I have a host of wonderful friends and my precious Dad who is 91, and still very active. It's so hard to be a me, and not a we, don't you find. The sharpness that was omnipresent has lessened somewhat, but I have cried an ocean of that boy, and I am sure you have too. I'm very happy to see that you two were fortunate enough to be married. Our state, not surprisingly does not recognize even civil unions.<br /><br />I like what you say in your profile that sorrow is interrupted by small wonders of joy. That is basically where I am as well.<br /><br />I am so glad I found this blog. I have wondered whether or not if there was such a blog.<br /><br />It's very touching to read your story. Good luck in your journey, and it must be such a comfort to have children. If I had only one thing to redo in my life, It would be I would have had children.<br /><br />Best regards,<br /><br />Kevin Graves<br />DallasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com